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Tuesday, 10 February 2009

Fights

I have been in two serious relationships, one im currently in and in each .. i have fought w both S.O's and i honestly cannot stand fighting, everyone says that though.. " i hate fighting with you".. blah blah, its B.S right? I mean .. if you keep fighting then their must be a reason for it. I find myself to have a large attitude and am very sensitive, i chalk it up to being a red head and pisces O.o unfortunatly everyguy i've dated has also been very good at fighting. I was wondering what you think are the Top 5 most popular fights... and what is the dumbest fight you've ever had.
Mine are the following
1. Video games! I can't stand them personally, im someone who generally loves attention, i admit it.. and i cannot get his attention.. i would literally have to walk around naked to pull him away sometimes. When he is playing and i text him it literally takes him about 45 min to respond. Drives me insane, all he has to do is be like babe, im playin halo.. ill tty in a bit, love you!
2. Girls ( for me anyway).. im a very jealous person.. and even if he says a girl is cute it gets me all fired up, My head has a way of creating a situation.
3. Sex.
4. Him falling asleep! I absolutly hate it when we are watching a movie or having a conversation, on the phone or in person and he is falling asleep.. He can even fall asleep after or when we are fighting, he can just put down his phone or roll over and be like" Im done with tonight" and go to sleep, while i wide eyed lay there and cry myself to sleep.
5. Plans. If i tell him i don't want to do something or if we discuss things and i tell him why i don't want to he will bother me and bother me till i give in, which i never do but.. he is relentless.

So what are yours?

Thursday, 04 December 2008

First love

What are your thoughts on your " First" Love?
Do you still think of them? Have they changed your life and how you are in relationships?
Secrets .. Shhh!

The biggest quality i find in a relationship is honesty.
How much is too much though.. do you think you should tell your SO everything or leave out things? My bf wants me to never keep things from him and if its important to me that i should tell him. Do you tell your SO Everything?

Tuesday, 02 December 2008

Military men

OH baby OH baby!
For me a military man is very apealing yet i hate dating them. Don't get me wrong Im completly head over heels in love with my bf but i HATE that he is in the military. Not only does it steal him away from me, for months or weeks at a time but it just puts a restriction on his life and innevitably mine.
In the past i started dating a guy my junior year of highschool and then he decided to join the Marines. I was totally opposed to it, i felt like he was choosing that over me.. well needless to say we broke up and while he was in bootcamp he wrote me and well we got back together and we stayed together for about 6 months in which , we got engaged in march 08'.. he told me it was the only way that i could be with him and he proposed in a denny's parking lot.. to me just didn't feel like it was right. I ended up deciding it was in our best interest to break up. I broke up with him in late june early july.
As time passed i i started to have feelings for my best friend, which happens to be in the navy. Well i ended up visiting him in South Carolina.. to see if things could progress to something more then friends and well it did.
We have now been dating for 4 months on the 8th. I have fallen in love with him.. and i love everything about him.. it just sucks.. distance sucks. There is nothing good about it. Because the stronger you feel for them it doesn't matter because they still have to leave, its not like they can quit or just stay one more day.. they HAVE to leave.
Have the time i feel like its not fair and other times i feel like its life preparing me.. If we can make it through this then we can make it through anything. I couldn't do it with my last relationship.. he made it too hard.. he controlled everything i did. I couldn't speak to any guys and i had no friends left. I found like the marines changed him for the worse where the navy changed my bf for the better.

Do you think there is a difference in the branches of the military?

Monday, 01 December 2008

Difference between Making love and Sex

"Making Love" and having "Sex ".
I have been in two serious relationships thus far, in my first relationship we dated off and on for a year and a half and well we had our ups and downs and whenever it came to sex.. with him i never thought about it..I didn't put a thought towards what it really was. You get to a point in life ( well so i think) that it means more. There IS a difference i believe.
I discussed this with my current bf .. my 2nd serious relationship..and he put a whole new spin on how i think about it. I asked him if he thought there was a difference.. and his response was " Yes" yes in the fact that Making love is "Motive".. you care about the person and you start off with either one of two thoughts. A. Just wanting sex.. wanting the what comes from sex. B. Being in love and showing your partner how much you love them by the act itself.
There are many ways to show someone you love them but the act of " Making love" is something much more intimate.. more personal..then simply a card or a gift. Its something that is shared between two in a comfortable atmosphere. You feel as if you are one rather then two people living separate lives.. and we all at some point want that feeling of being the most important aspect of someones life. To feel safe.. and loved. Don't get me wrong.. you can still have " sex" with someone you're in a relationship with, even if you are in love with them.. it can turn into just sex.
Do you believe there is a difference between " Making love" and "Sex"? If so.. whats the difference?